Why is it that despite endless health education, heart disease
remains one of the most common physical causes of death? The
Government may tell us to 'look after our heart', but from a
vibrational medicine perspective, it isn't just about taking
regular exercise and cutting down on saturated fats, it's about
looking after the main emotional balancer of our body.
Viewed holistically, we need to look after our heart not
only physically but emotionally, mentally and spiritually
too, as our heart has to deal with disturbances and imbalances
at all these levels. Heart disease is simply the final physical
outcome of neglecting all levels of reality which affect our
heart. The European countries with the lowest rates of heart
disease are Spain, Italy and France; countries we make fun
of for their extroversion, emotional dramas and easy tears.
Meanwhile in the UK we apply more starch to our upper lip
and our arteries continue to harden. One of the unfortunate
side effects of us bottling up our feelings so that we're
walking around like emotional pickle jars, is that when the
lid comes off, the intensity of our feelings can be absolutely
overwhelming, both to ourselves and to those we love: 'That
went well then' we think as we stomp out to the pub leaving
our girlfriend a mascara-soaked, tissue-sodden heap on the
sofa. So next time she asks 'But what do you really think'
the chances of an honest answer are even more remote and the
lid gets screwed on even tighter with the weight of our fear
of the potentially destructive force of letting go.
Wounds and Myths
Two of the main problems in relationship tend to be the 'bottling
it up' scenario, so that when our partner is late to pick us
up from the station they become the scapegoat for everyone who
just wasn't there when you needed them, from the hospital incubator
and school gates onwards.
The second unhelpful factor is the mythical expectations
we're encouraged to have of our intimate relationships. Watch
films, read books (especially the ones we read to our children),
listen to music and you'd be forgiven for thinking that falling
in love could be the cure for everything from warts to global
warming. But whilst we can often consign the tooth fairy and
Santa Claus to our childhood, romantic illusions can still
seduce some of us into disastrous actions as long as we draw
breath.
So what helps?
Well, safely taking the lid of our pickle jar is a good start.
A supportive environment which allows us to unpack and release
the past is a wonderful investment. Then learning some tools
and techniques to allow us to stay in regular touch with our
feelings, to prevent them bottling up again, is a great next
step. Whilst we're learning this new behaviour, a regular check-in
with our Personal Emotional Health Trainer (a.k.a. a good holistic
therapist) is also very helpful until we get used to jogging
through our emotional landscape as easily as we would our local
park - knowing there are no dodgy strangers from our past waiting
to ambush us!
How Bleeding Heart Helps
Does any of this sound familiar? Then a fabulous support is
Bleeding Heart. Its function is obvious by its
name, shape, colour and the way it grows. The heart-shaped flowers
hang together, which is what the word co-dependent originally
means. So this is a great remedy for all of us prone to possessiveness,
over-attachment and co-dependence. As you might imagine from
the picture, it's also the 'Heartbreak Essence' - a wonderful
balm when our heart is wounded from the death of someone dear
or the break up of a relationship.
It's also for those of us whose hearts are too scarred to
love freely because it wasn't allowed to 'bleed' when it needed
to. Maybe when we were wounded in the past it wasn't safe,
it wasn't allowed, it wasn't considered 'appropriate' or was
seen as weak, maybe it was even seen as a betrayal. The reason
isn't important - as we take the essence the heartache eases,
the old sorrow releases and we're able to open fully to receive
love again.
I'm OK - You're not OK
Bleeding Heart is useful in any situation where we feel trapped
and helpless, where we feel that if only our partner/friend/boss/colleague
would change, then it would all be OK. The truth is we're trapped
in old emotional patterns and Bleeding Heart helps us step back
objectively from those intense past feelings so that we can
see that the ONLY person who can change the way they feel, act
and react is us. Oh - and yes, on a physical level it's a great
remedy for your heart
- but I guess you've worked that out by now!
On Relationship...
'But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the
winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but
make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls.' Khalil Gibran
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personal channeled blend made up, Nikki can attune for the essences
most appropriate for your growth and healing.
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Why is it that despite endless health education, heart disease
remains one of the most common physical causes of death? The
Government may tell us to 'look after our heart', but from a
vibrational medicine perspective, it isn't just about taking
regular exercise and cutting down on saturated fats, it's about
looking after the main emotional balancer of our body.
Does any of this sound familiar? Then a fabulous support is
Bleeding Heart. Its function is obvious by its
name, shape, colour and the way it grows. The heart-shaped flowers
hang together, which is what the word co-dependent originally
means. So this is a great remedy for all of us prone to possessiveness,
over-attachment and co-dependence. As you might imagine from
the picture, it's also the 'Heartbreak Essence' - a wonderful
balm when our heart is wounded from the death of someone dear
or the break up of a relationship.
