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Choosing to be here

The Joy of Acceptance

The Power of Choice

We often talk about choice in personal growth and taking responsibility for our choices. It seems to me that the most important choice is the first one we make - our soul's choice to be here - to incarnate on this earth, into this family, under these set of circumstances and at this time in mankind's history.

Many of the problems which arrive in my consulting room come from our reluctance to accept that initial choice. If you find you harbour chronic feelings of resentment, bitterness and anger (problems with your liver and gall bladder are a physical clue to this pattern) then a great exercise is to write down all the things you feel resentful about, however irrational. Spill all the bile onto the paper - really 'vent your spleen'.

I did this once years ago and after writing what looked like a draft for war and peace, I came up with the fact that I thoroughly resented my choice to be here. Well, that certainly took me to the root of my internal conflict! It was a bit like my soul driving around my physical body with an irritable child in the back, forever wanting sweets, moaning she was bored, felt sick and whining "Are we there yet?" And no, surprisingly life didn't feel a whole lot of fun at the time.

I often hear people say that they feel this lifetime was some kind of cosmic mistake and who are in quite a rush to 'go home' - causing a whole chain of self-sabotaging patterns. They may not actively choose to let go of life but they haven't committed to being here either. Sitting on life's fence, which often involves considerable emotional and physical suffering, waiting for life/God/the perfect chocolate or soulmate to prove it's really worth our while to take part, we miss out on so much that life has to offer. If you resonate with this dilemma then it's important to accept your choice to be here and to recommit to life. Great ways to do that include:

  • Making time to do things you truly enjoy, whether that's walking by the sea or through a garden of flowers (too much washing up can sap the will to live - and it will still be there when you get back!)
  • Spending time with those you love, planning surprises for them, sharing their pleasure
  • Exploring your creativity - painting singing, dancing, mosaic making, decorating - playing with sound and colour is truly joyful
  • Enjoying your physical body - massage, aromatherapy, fresh organic food, swimming in the sea, paragliding through the air, stroking your pet and holding a loved one close

Essence Blend Suggestions

There are also some helpful essence blends for this state of mind and spirit. Base Chakra tackles this state of mind very well. You may also consider Karmic Cleansing or Be Present-Commit to a Passionate Life

Personal Attunement Blends

Individual flower and crystal essences can also be mixed into a blend for you. If you need guidance or you'd like a personal blend made up, Nikki can attune for the essences most appropriate for your growth and healing.

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